Welcome 2019! Most of us are sporting a new calendar full of empty days and pages and chapters. New possibilities. New opportunities. New experiences. The world right now, this very second is our oyster! So I ask you - what are you doing to make sure this is a year that is worth living? How are you planning out your days so that when you lay your head on your pillow at night you say to yourself - This day, this was a day well lived.
How are you setting yourself up to live life with purpose?
I talk about it. I write about. I even get a little on my soapbox about it. Yay me - right? But what does that really mean? Someone asked me that and I thought - great question! We all walk to the beat of a different drum, live life by different rules but ultimately, there are ways in which we are all the same, ways in which we can all live our live with purpose that apply to each and every one of us.
So for all of you that are taking the time out of your day to read this, for every person that penned down, typed out, gave a second’s thought to the upcoming year, to those that don’t quite no where to start but are in need of a little inspiration to jump-start this brand spanking new year - this one here is for you.
8 Ways to Life Life With Purpose
We all know those people. People that seem to have it all - no financial worries, big homes, bigger cars, even bigger lifestyles. Great careers, great families, high social status. But still they are lacking. Unhappy. Fulfilled with life and completely unfulfilled with their life. And then we know those that don’t have much. Life seems to be a series of hard knocks. But they are some of the happiest, most complete people we know. Often times, the difference lies in living life with purpose. Not perfect for everyone but there are common threads that weave in the lives of those living with purpose.
Almost everyone I’ve ever met that is complete and fulfilled and happy, a driving force in their life is giving back. Could be in big ways, could be in small ways but in whatever way they choose to do so, they are giving back to others throughout their day to day life. I’m not talking significant donations to charities. I’m talking about giving of yourself in small ways - a smile to those you pass by, catching the door to the person behind you, donating your time to a friend that’s in need of a cup of coffee and an hour of venting. The ways in which we can give to others are literally endless. How much of your day do you spend more concerned with yourself than others? Changing that equation will change your life.
Live for now.
Good-Ness we spend vast amounts of time worrying about tomorrow. About ‘what-if’. When we do that we are missing the flowers that are blooming in our own gardens. A child that had a small success in their day. A cold nose and wagging tail that is thrilled that you walked in the door. A wife that made a meal to fill a hungry belly. A dad that puts down his phone to engage and ask about your day because he actually cares - he isn’t just going through the motions. There are endless great moments that fill our days and we are often too wrapped up in the garbage of tomorrow to embrace them. Imagine what life would be like if what you recalled about your days were those great moments…every single day.
March to your own drum.
When you are living your life based off of the beat of your own drum, you are being authentic and true to yourself. I have said it 1000 times over - I am well aware that I am not everyone's cup of tea. But I am totes okay with that. Your values and your beliefs are important and when that is what you are living, when you’re not only talking the talk but walking the walk, then you are living your life with purpose. That doesn’t mean that your values and your beliefs are the gospel - it simply means it is what works for you. And if you’re so busy marching to your own drum, you won’t have time to worry yourself about how others are marching.
Surround yourself with like.
You are the company that you keep. Period. Positivity is infectious just as toxicity is too. Which one do you want to open up the door to? I love a little gossip as much as the next girl but I have found that I have less and less tolerance for it. I have worked very hard to remove that aspect from my life in recent months because it becomes all consuming. I want to be around people that bring out the best in me, people that when they walk away from me they feel better about themselves. When we are lifting others up we are lifting up ourselves as well.
Happiness is a choice.
There are a lot of naysayers out there that say this isn’t true and I’m telling you hands down - I believe it to be so. When we wake up every day, stretch our bodies, pour that cup of coffee we are given a choice - be happy or don’t be happy. Being happy is 100% a choice. That’s not to say that every day is Tito’s and puppies. I wish it were so but it’s not. But your approach to the hiccups in life, your overall attitude and ways in which you embrace your days - you can do so with a happy heart or a miserable one. That choice is totally and completely yours.
I believe in this so much and wish that more people took the time to do so. Set goals for yourself. Daily goals. Take a few quiet moments in the morning, the night before and write own what you want/need/have to accomplish out of the next day. I don’t care if you do it on a notepad, an agenda, in a journal - however you do it, it truly helps to set yourself up for success. There is something about seeing things in writing that not only gives them life but helps you to visualize your day ahead. It makes it a little more difficult to run away from your responsibilities of the day. And there is something immensely satisfying about crossing things off your list, realizing that you got more out of your day than what you thought you did. I don’t care how big or how small your ‘goals’ for the day, the week, the month, the year may be - set them. Seeing is believing.
Pick your passion.
There is nothing like being passionate about something. What makes your life worth living? What when you do it brings you incredible joy? We all have that something that we love to do, that is our happy place. I love to write and although at times I suffer from a little bit of writer’s block and have trouble getting a piece going, there is nothing in the world like knowing that I wrote something that is impactful. That made someone stop and think. Maybe changed their perspective a little. Healed a heart. Telling someone’s story. Find your passion and work each day to pursue it in some way, shape or form.
Grow from gratitude.
Something that is so near and dear to my heart, we should always be growing from a place of gratitude. Being thankful and aware of our have’s. When you are living with gratitude, you are content and at peace with life. Ever mindful of the gifts that each day holds. When you nourish yourself with gratitude, you are building up your personal savings account - making deposits of thanks, positivity, clarity and peace. Deposits that you can draw from and tap into when things are bringing you down, allowing yourself to become ‘unstuck’. It is a powerful tool that when used daily, is day changing and life altering.
Living with Purpose - All About Me
2018 was life changing for me in many ways. I probably was faced with more challenges personally than ever before. It was a year of a lot of tears, a lot of heartache, a lot of lessons learned. And as I move forward I am doing so in a way that I haven’t in years past. Maybe it’s the fact that I’m cognizant of getting older, a second child graduating from high school or just simply that I feel like 2018 got the best of me. I can’t really put my finger on it.
But here’s the thing. 2019 is a brand new book. A novel that I can to pen out however I want. Sure, there are going to be edits and input and bylines that are going to be outside my realm of my control and will serve as markers and milestones for change. But the story is unquestionably mine to write.
I am going to give back to others.
Whether it’s putting down my phone to have a conversation with a friend, stopping to pick up a neighbor’s trash can that blew into the middle of the street, picking up the tab for a stranger or simply looking someone in the eye and wishing them well - I will do more to give back to the rest of the world in 2019.
I will live for this moment.
I don’t know if it’s my personality, if it’s being a mom or the family manager per se but I spend vast amounts of time worrying about things that might happen. I’m going to live for just right now. It’s not going to be a perfect process and I’m going to absolutely be a work in progress but I am going to make a conscious effort to keep my focus on this moment and appreciate it for what it is.
I’ll keep marching.
I’ll say it again - I’m not everyone’s cup of tea for sure. But I will continue to live my own truth, staying true to my system of beliefs and values.
I will keep redefining my tribe.
I love my tribe, the strong women in my life that I have surrounded myself with. It’s pretty fine tuned at this point but I have also realized that as we grow and evolve and others grow and evolve in their own lives, relationships change. I will keep striving to be one that uplifts others and attract those with like values into my inner circle.
I am going to choose happy.
I am sick and tired of being sad. Of feeling lost. I am finding myself and choosing happiness. Because the alternative is not a place I want to be. Digging myself out of the hole.
I will be writing down my goals.
I’m going to change the process a little bit but not the purpose behind it. I am going to be more consistent in setting up my days and my life with a goal oriented perspective. I know the system works, I believe in it and it does wonders for my feeling of accomplishment. On my radar.
I am going to see where my writing takes me.
I learned a lot this past year about what impacts peoples hearts, what makes a difference in their life. And without question - authenticity about the ups and downs of being a parent, a spouse, a person trying to get the most they can out of life is one of those things. And giving a voice to someone’s life story not only is impactful to others but also healing in so many ways. I want more.
I am going to give life to my gratitude.
Once a day, no matter what, I am going to make time to find one thing in my life that I am grateful for and write it down. Because living with gratitude is like anything else - practice makes perfect.
Living your life with purpose is so important. What else are you living for? Shouldn’t our days matter? Mean something not just to our families and our bosses but to ourselves? This is the start of a brand new year, peepers. Take the lessons and the challenges of the previous year and move forward. Let go the hang-ups, forgive the transgressions and tune in to what you want from you. This life is not about making everyone else happy - it’s about uplifting the best part of you. Because when you do that, when THAT is the person that you are presenting to the world - the byproduct of that is you are making a difference in the lives of others simply by bringing that best version of yourself to the table. Commit to living your life with purpose and make 2019 your best year yet!
This year is going to be a year of purpose!